Wednesday, July 25, 2007

D-Day minus 1

I don't have very much interesting to say or report today. I'm feeling pretty much the same way I was feeling yesterday. That is, generally pessimistic and scared. So, rather than dwelling, I thought I'd solicit advice on my current dilemma. Here's the deal:

My beta is tomorrow morning at 8:30am. Do I take an HPT first thing in the a.m. just so that I have some advanced warning about whatever the result is from this cycle--and so that I don't have to get the results, good or bad, smack in the middle of the work day? Or, do I just hold out and field the call from my RE when it comes in, fear be damned?

I'm really torn. On the one hand, if it's negative, it might be good to be expecting it, rather than getting the call and having to put on a brave face in the middle of the day. On the other hand...well, I guess I don't know what the other hand is. I guess that I've held out this long, so I might as well just wait it out.

Thoughts?

21 comments:

Kelly said...

My test is tomorrow too and I POAS this morning without even thinking about it! It was a BFP and it's helped me relax for tomorrow a bit more. Now I'm just hoping for high HCG #'s and not the trigger shot still in me....GOOD LUCK tomorrow!!! We can have butterflies together!!

Waiting Amy said...

Oh Sticky, I've got no easy answer. Whatever helps you get through the day. Maybe they can leave your result on voice mail and you can get it at the end of the day? Probably too much torture though.

My fingers and toes are crossed for you and sending most excellent thoughts!

Ms. Planner said...

Sticky, you are being so strong. I admire your spirit so much. I've fielded two beta result calls at my office (one was negative and the other was 9 so I knew what was coming) and I had to leave right away before I broke down in tears. Can you stay home tomorrow for the results?

I have no advice on POAS. I've got my rules about not testing before day 14 and don't even keep them in the house. So I'm a bad resource as far as they go.

Thinking of you big time.

Sarah said...

much as i HATE peesticks, i always peed the morning of so i was prepared. i never wanted to get the bad news from some stranger over the phone, and i can't imagine the wait all day if you didn't have an idea. just my approach though.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

megan said...

oh, sticky. i don't know. i'm usually so afraid to pee on those kind of sticks (unlike opks which i am kind of addicted to). it's a sorry excuse for an answer, but you should do what you need to do. it would be difficult to get the news at work totally unprepared. . . i don't know. that said, i'm hoping for the best possible news for you tomorrow!

Erin said...

Oh man, I've been thinking about you! I'm in the POAS in the am camp, but since yours will be positive, getting the news at work will be no problem!

Honestly it was very helpful to have prior knowledge of my negative, so if you're asking for advice, mine would be to test.

GOOD LUCK!
xoxoxo

chicklet said...

I say don't check your voicemail until you're home. That means don't POAS. That way you can deal with the results, good or bad, when you're at home, in your own way.

tipsymarie said...

You've waited this long.

I second chicklet's idea.

I will be thinking about you!!

CAM said...

I have done both...peed and not peed the morning of the test. I liked it better when I did test in the morning. AND...I have had it come out both ways in the morning...pos and neg. I have liked that little bit of warning either way...sort of takes the edge off and you can share the emotion with your husband.
Just see how you feel in the morning and then go with it - trust your gut!
:)

The Oneliner (Christina) said...

i don't know what you *should* do...but i know what i would do....POAS! I hate to admit it.

But, you have waited this whole time anyway.

Whatever you decide....i hope you get some *positive* news. (i'm infertile...i can be cheesy!)

Amy R said...

You've got to follow your gut Sticky. I keep wondering what I'll do when its my turn, 6 damn weeks from now. So far I'm leaning towards not POAS and staying home that day. I'm praying praying praying that its good news for you.

Mrs. KM said...

I always had the nurse call my husband's cell phone with the beta results. That way he could break it to me gently (or have the pleasure of giving me the good news). I always thought the nurses were knd of cold when they gave the results, and I preferred to hear it from my husband. It also took the pressure off of waiting for the phone call myself and was a good way to involve him in what was a very stressful day. Our rule was that, no matter what time the clinic called, he couldn't tell me until I got home from work (that way I wouldn't assume a BFN just because he hadn't called me at work).


Good luck - I'll be thinking of you tomorrow!

Lara said...

I always feel so much tension and stress on beta day waiting for the call. The only time I didn't was when I went in, took the blood test, then went home and did a hpt. That way when I got the negative at home, I was prepared for a bfn. However, if the doc had called and said it was a BFP I would have been thrilled!

serenity said...

Thinking of you today, SB - SO hoping for good news.

The Oneliner (Christina) said...

i am so thinking of yo today, sweet pea.
warm thoughts of hope sent your way.

xoxo
christina

Mary Ellen and Steve said...

I say forget the pee stick and wait for the beta. I agree with chicklet that being home when you get the call is best. Good luck tomorrow sweetie. I hope that you get some great news. Hugs.

Reproductive Jeans said...

Thinking of you today--I would POAS, but I dont have any left in my house, so I dont know if Ill go buy more...I cant wait to hear from you--thinking about you all day!

Dianne/Flutter said...

I'd want to know. Praying for you Sticky.

Coffeegrl said...

I have no suggestions; I'm just hoping you've found some ideas to help you get through the day. I'll be thinking good thoughts and sending good vibes your way!

tipsymarie said...

So . . . is there any news, hon?

nancy said...

although I completely agree with Chicklet, I know that I am not strong enough to do it. I always POAS the day of beta.

I'm hoping today's results were good. I can't wait until you update us!!!

++++++++++vibes+++++++++++