Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Quick updates and Monkey Girl and Sweet Potato

I feel like I have much to say, but little time to say it. And, because it’s been too long since my last post, here are a few un- (or semi-) related updates:

1. C-Section: Thankfully the c-section went pretty well. The spinal wasn’t nearly as bad as I’d anticipated, but it was definitely weird to be numb like that. I have to say that it probably did detract just a bit from the birth experience. It was weird to be behind a curtain, unable to move, and to hear my babies’ first cries. But, they quickly washed them up and brought them over to me. And hubby was able to hold them and I was able to touch and kiss them right away. It was definitely a surreal moment.

2. Recovery: Things have been going pretty well, all things considered. There’s no question that the first couple of days are hard. And, everything you’ve heard about getting up and moving around is right on the money—it helps immensely, even though it feels a bit torturous as you’re going through it. And the pain isn’t awful and remarkably does diminish noticeably with every passing day. Saturday was the worst day—but the only one I was on perc*cet (sp?). Since they I have only been on motrin and advil. And now I only take that just a little. I’m not quite 100% yet, but I’m a lot better and really looking forward to the weather getting nicer and being able to take nice long walks with the stickies and the dog again.

But, to all of you out there who may have a c-section in the future, here’s a tip from me to you—don’t let your bladder get too full when you’re recovering. This is a little known tip that nobody ever talks about (or that nobody every told me in any case), but let me tell you, it ain’t fun. I fell asleep for more than three hours one night after drinking a ton of water. When I woke up to go to the bathroom, I can’t tell you how much having a full bladder hurt! YIKES! And, it took a while after going to feel better. No fun. I wish someone had warned me.

3. The Stickies, aka Monkey Girl and Sweet Potato: So, now that the stickies have met the world—and shown their very distinct personalities—I’m going to have to refer to them by something other than the stickies. So, from now on you’ll likely be hearing about the adventures of monkey girl and sweet potato. Monkey girl because, well, my beautiful little girl looks and stretches like a cute little monkey. (We had actually bought them stuffed animals before they were born—a monkey for the boy and a giraffe for the girl—and we had to switch them. She really has monkey-like qualities.) Sweet potato because our little boy is always balled up like a little sack of potatoes. It’s so funny how different they are, even at just over a week old.

In any case, they are both beautiful and I love them. I definitely still stare at them wondering, “did you really come out of ME?” It’s so strange. And, they look and act NOTHING alike. It’s really funny. Monkey girl has so much hair! And it’s coiffed in this adorable little pixie cut—I mean, it’s got little spiky layers and everything. It’s really too funny. Sweet potato has hubby’s little round head and much more olive skin. (And hubby’s hair…or semi-lack thereof. ☺) It’s amazing to think how differently your genes can mix together and what they can produce.

4. Being a parent: I always knew that being a parent was going to feel overwhelming. And it does, but not in the way I expected. I thought that midnight feedings and sleep deprivation would be at the heart of it. But really, that stuff—the “process” stuff—is manageable. Sure, we’re tired. But the really exhausting and hard to get used to part is being so emotionally invested and “on” all of the time, and in a way I’ve never experienced before in my life. It really is true that your life is no longer your own. And, while I’m happy to devote myself to these wonderful new arrivals, it definitely happens fast and furious and can feel a little overwhelming. At 8:26 on Friday morning, I was thinking about how the spinal was affecting me—whether I could breathe right or whether something was going to make me feel weird. Then, suddenly, none of that really mattered. At 8:27am, when I heard Monkey Girl cry for the first time, the only reason I cared about how the spinal was affecting me was because I knew how much these two little beings needed me. It wasn’t about me anymore; it was about Monkey Girl and Sweet Potato.

I know that there will be a time when it doesn’t feel quite as intense as it does right now, but for the moment, it definitely feels overwhelming to know that I’ve been blessed with such an enormous responsibility.

5. This blog: Now that I’ve officially crossed over to the other side, the nature of this blog is going to change, if only to acknowledge the continuation of my journey. To be sure, I’m (we’re) still infertile. But, for the foreseeable future at least, there will be an increased focus on babies and … well, parenthood, I guess? I say this more for me than for you. I think you all know that I sometimes feel funny about talking about pregnancy or babies because I don’t want to make anyone in the trenches feel frustrated or upset. But, to be true to myself and to our journey, I’m going to try to be as open about where I am now as I was when I was cycling, etc.

6. On Hospitals: I’m going to have to write a much longer post about this, but I have to say that my four days in the hospital were less than ideal. I found the nurses, in particular, to be wildly inconsistent. A few were remarkable—really wonderfully helpful and supportive. Some were just overbearing and annoying, and one made me so angry I’m actually filling a complaint at the hospital. (Long story short, the evening of my c-section, without warning, she was checking my bleeding and started forcefully pressing down on my uterus. It was excruciating and I was begging her to stop, which she only did when hubby leap off the couch to come over and stop her. It was awful. She also let my IV run dry and gave us terrible breastfeeding advice. She’s on my sh*t list, to say the least…)

It was really interesting, though. I’ve never spent any time at the hospital before, and it was a weird feeling. It’s a very paternalistic place to be and I was so happy to be discharged and able to just come home and start to muddle through these early days on our own.

So, that’s the update for now. Most of all, thank you all for your wonderful words of congratulations and well wishes. It really means the world to me. ☺

14 comments:

megan said...

they're just so gorgeous. glad to hear you're recovering well and that all of you are settling into your new lives together! i'm sure it's going to be a fantastic ride!

Waiting Amy said...

Indeed, they are gorgeous! I'm glad you are faring well after the c-section, but sorry the hosp was not so great.

Those intense emotions will temper some as your hormones settle out. I remember about a week after The Snake was born I had this hysterical show of love and devotion for my husband. While they were genuine emotions, I'm not typically like that - so your hormones definitely mess with you!

I can't wait to hear about what it is like with your little girl and boy. I'll be taking notes!

Kelly said...

I'm taking notes too bc I'm due tomorrow! Can't wait to share this journey with you! I read your blog everyday!! Congrats!! xoxo

anna said...

Thank you so much for documenting the beginning of your journey as a parent to the Stickies. I, too, am being induced tomorrow and re-read your post 3 times so it could help guide me through the terrifying waters ahead! You've paved the road well for me, fellow twin mama!

Sarah said...

i'm all teared up and so very very happy for you!!! congratulations!!!!

and um, HOW have you managed such a coherent, organized post?? PLEASE tell me the secret!!!

Ms. Planner said...

Thank you for the amazingly organized post - should we expect anything less from Ms. SB? You captured so well your transition into motherhood from both the physical and emotional sides of things. I, for one, cannot wait to read more posts about the adventures of Monkey Girl and Sweet Potato. Happy thoughts for the 4 of you.

Nearlydawn said...

Oh, I totally had the nurse do the pushing on my uterus thing!! No warning - just OH.KILL.ME.NOW levels of pain coming at me instantly. I seriously almost punched her - it would have been pure reflex too. Damn!

Caro said...

Thanks for the update.

JJ said...

They are so precious, Monkey Girl and Sweet Potato! Cant wait to hear about more adventures. So glad everyone is doing well!

Diana said...

Fantastic update! Thank you! I hope you recover very quickly and get some sleep soon. I know it's all worth it though!

hopeful to hateful in 28 days said...

I understand your feelings of being overwhelmed. i have used that exact word to describe my new experience as a parent.

Anonymous said...

I recently started reading your blog, but I cannot find the babies' names anywhere. Please share. Also in the picture, which one is which?

Kate said...

Glad to hear that you're doing well. I got inconsistent lactation advice at the hospital. I'm sorry that nurse was such a jerk!

A Desperate(-ly bored) Housewife said...

Hi will be following your blog cos I'm also preggie with twins from IVF... thanks for all the useful info too! :)